19 years on this earth. Well, time flies when you’re having fun. And although I could go on and on reminiscing about the past 19 years, today I am here to share with y’all 19 things that I have learned and am still learning in my 19 years here! ( I know what you’re thinking, how many times is she gonna say 19 in this sentence lol) So without further ado here we go…
1. Be Yourself
Yeah I know, I know it’s cliche but it’s important. You don’t have to go on some big epic journey to find your true self because life is already a journey in itself. You will go through changes that will shape you and mold you, but I cannot stress enough how important it is to stay true to you no matter where life takes ya.
2. Take lots of pics
We are blessed in our generation to have the glorious things that are iPhone cameras and Snapchat memories. Use them! One of my favorite things to do is just look back through my Snapchat memories and see random videos and pics that remind me of super fun days. And to go along with the subject of pictures…
3. Who cares about your Instagram “aesthetic”
Post whatever the heck ya want (that’s appropriate of course), but hey if you want to post ten selfies, ygg post them. If you want to post a pic of your avocado toast because it looks poppin then post it! I feel like it’s so easy to get caught up in the whole “omg it’s only socially acceptable to post once a week” kind of thing but honestly who cares it’s your social media so post away
Balance is key. I’ve gone on crazy health kicks where I would work out for hours a day and more recently I’ve let myself go and haven’t worked out for a month, neither of which show any kind of balance, but hey, like I said I’m still learning. So go to the gym a couple times a week, eat those salads, but also eat that Cookout tray or that donut once in a while because food is made to be enjoyed 🙂
5. Say yes to new things
Moving down south I was exposed to a TON of new experiences and things but I have learned to embrace it. For example, something as little as grits. I never had grits before I moved to North Carolina and now they are a fan favorite breakfast food of mine. I also tried doing Purebarre and Zumba this year and they are two of my favorite ways to exercise. The world is full of opportunities people say yes to some!
6. It’s okay to say “no”
If you knew me in high school I was the queen of yes. I was on every single committee and club I could be on and I physically could not say no without feeling guilty. Then I realized that I was not superwoman and I barely had time to breathe and I had stressed myself out to unhealthy levels. You cannot be everything to everyone. Pick a few things that you are passionate about to really invest your time into those things.
7. Invest in a good planner
Seriously it makes a world of difference when you have everything written down all of the time, especially if you’re like me and still working on the whole “no” thing and have a tendency to double book yourself. Usually I get a planner, be really good about the first few months writing in it and then as the year goes on it slowly gets forgotten about. But if you get a planner you really love and get some nice pens I have found for me I’m ten times more likely to stay on top of writing in it.
8. Be a little spontaneous
Spontaneity is not one of my strong suits. I tend to be type A and I like to have a plan but recently I have been working on finding a balance between having everything planned and going with the flow all the time. I will say this, some of the most fun times I have had this year have been random and spontaneous last minute hangouts or road trips.
9. Do something either fun or relaxing the night before a test
Yes, this sounds a little irresponsible but I have proof it works. I’m not saying to go on a crazy road trip or stay out all night before a test, please don’t do that actually. What I have found is if I break up my studying to do a little bit each day and study the day before, I feel ready enough to take the night to grab coffee with a friend or watch a movie and take my mind off the stress of the test.
10. Pick a career path you love because it’s YOUR career
I had huge plans in high school to be a pediatric nurse practitioner and guess what? That’s not actually what I want to do with my life and to be honest I still don’t know exactly what my career will be but that’s okay! Explore different options of things that interest you because you may just find your niche.
11. It’s okay to treat yourself
My big thing is my nails. I always have my nails done or I paint them myself. Me going to the nail salon every few weeks, or splurging every once in a while is actually a good thing, as long as all good things are in moderation. But hey, if you’ve had a rough week or just found out you passed a test you studied like crazy for go and buy yourself a face mask and a pint of ice cream, no shame!
12. Go to a concert on a Monday night
One Monday last semester my friend Camille and I went to a Ruth B concert on a Monday night, despite the fact that I had an 8am the next morning, but it ended up being one of the most fun nights I had ever had. We were literally touching the stage and got to meet Ruth afterwards. All of that just to have to drink a little extra coffee that morning. Worth it.
13. Find a way to sacrifice your time for others
And no, it’s not just so you can feel good for helping those less fortunate, it’s because that’s what we are supposed to do. It is such a good reality to check to go on a missions trip or even just volunteer at a soup kitchen and understand that there are people out there struggling and they appreciate any bit of help we can give them.
14. Make time to read for fun
I know, I know, we do enough reading in school or for work but instead of watching Netflix every night before bed read a chapter of a book. I started reading for fun more last spring and I found reading helps me wind down and relax a lot more than TV does, but that’s probably because I get way too invested in TV shows I watch haha.
15. Celebrate the small things
We reach our big goals by all of the small things we do along the way. It can be so easy to put on the blinders and be so focused on the big challenge ahead that we forget to celebrate all of the smaller obstacles we overcome to get there.
16. The door swings both ways
When it comes to friendships this is key, especially since I am off at college and far away from childhood friends and even at such a big school where I’m constantly around different groups of people. Don’t be afraid to reach out first, you can’t expect the other person to always reach out. Make an effort to keep in touch with your pals because friendship is a two way street
17. Don’t take life too seriously
I’ll never forget when I went to Disney when I was 8 and got picked to go on stage at a show and my mom told me that I looked like I was taking a math test the whole time. For a long time I was extremely performance driven in everything I did and thought that I had to be the smartest or get the best grades, etc… I took life way to seriously and forgot that you’re supposed to have fun! I’m not saying to blow off school but one mistake or bad grade doesn’t define you! Trying your best and having fun along the way is all that matters.
18. You will always have more growing to do
I thought when I graduated high school I was pretty grown up, then I went to college for a year and realized, WOW I had a lot of growing to do and still have a ton of growing up to do. Unless you can find me a human on this earth who is without a flaw I can say in confidence we ALL have growing to do. So be patient with people, were all in process still.
19. ALWAYS take the high road
Forgiveness is a huge key to life. If we all handled situations with the same grace and elegance that we’d hope to receive then the world would be a very different place. The golden rule is a real thing that we should use way beyond the days of learning it in elementary school. I wish I could say I always follow it but I don’t and there have been many times I’ve argued with people and been involved in drama that was completely unnecessary because I didn’t just forgive the person and move on.
Well there ya have it folks! 19 little pieces of wisdom from my 19 years on this earth. Wisdom I am still learning to live by. These definitely don’t encompass EVERYTHING I have learned but I feel like they are the most blog worthy and relevant of right now. And with that…
Keep learning and growing friends! xoxo